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[Grace02]

I've been single for a while now and I'm usually happy with that but this weekend I met a rather nice lass and I'm in a bit of a tizz. She's a friend of a friend who had been trying to engineer a meeting between the two of us for a while now (the friend doesn't know about my dressing) and I have to admit I was rather impressed by what I saw. Basically I'd like to see her again and take it from there.

That's why I'm in a spin. The thing is, experiences like that always intensify emotions and such and make me question myself much more than usual. If it takes off wil I need to stop my activities? Should I tell her? I end up feeling depressed and deeply ambivalent about almost every aspect of my personality and existence. Have I said the right thing? Does she even like me? I hate things like this which is why I tend to keep myself to myself regarding emotional stuff.

I don't really know what to do.

It could all be a flash in the pan, mind.

[rachelb]

Hi Grace
It is always difficult, if not impossable to give the right advice in these situations. All I can say is that IF you don't tell her about your femme side now, think how difficult it would be if you married the girl. I would have thought that if your girly side has been with you for years, then it is going to be hard (very) trying to give it all up so that you don't hurt the girl. I feel that it would be safer to let her know fairly soon into your relationship, that way if she can't cope then it will be easier for you to break off the relationship at that time. How and when you would let her know is of course the time to ask on here for more advice, not that you will get consistant replies to make the job easier!

Note, this has come from someone who was married for nearly 20 years before my wife found out who i am, and she is not that happy about it (but she hasn't left me). I thought it would all 'Go away' once i was settled with a girl, silly me!

[jackiejones]

I have had this problem many times before and i feel for you:( i have never been married or anything,but when i have been in relationships,i have not dressed and repressed my Fem side.

I have the same problem as you,i have a Neighbour who is a lovely attractive woman that i hardly know! but i have good information that She is interested in me as her Boyfreind,i have done nothing about it as yet for the same reasons as you im afraid to say.

I could tell you to tell her about your fem side,however i have never done it myself.

I can only wish you the best.

[Vicky_Scot]

Why should you give up what you enjoy doing.

Are you going to ask what she enjoys doing and tell her to stop doing something she enjoys if you do not agree with it.

I would not tell her until your relationship is going somewhere then I would sit down and explain about Grace and that she is part of you and you come as a package.

Trying to hide who you really are will lead to problems.

All the best and hope things work out.

Xx Vicky xX

[doodle]

I agree with Vicky wait and see how the relationship develops. If it seem to be going well you should tell her. You are not going to stop CD ing I don't anyone stops for a long period of time.
doodle

[Geraldine]

Hi Grace
I am just new to the forum, but in my humble opinion, my advice would be to get to know her first. Only once you really get to know someone can you then start dropping little hints to test the water so to speak. You might be surprised by her reaction. I know I was when I came out to everyone. People value honesty I have found, but take your time Grace. Its more important at this stage to show her you are a nice, thoughtful and caring person. Women value those qualities above all others. Just my thoughts, hope it works out for you!